"Certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and mean spirited things

do occur in our interactions with other people that would allow us to take
offense.  However, it ultimately is impossible for another person to offend
you or to offend me. Indeed, believing that another person offended us is
 fundamentally false. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a
condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else."

~~David A. Bednar